My parents are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary in two weeks. I called the “Wedding Chapel” in TN where the ceremony is to take place. When I asked for a copy of the vows and ceremony, the response, “the minister uses the Bible.” I asked again to see the vows and ceremony, and when the response was the same, I asked to speak to the minister, saying to her that I was a minister in Savannah, GA (hoping that would help). The responce, “I can’t give out his phone number.” And when I asked if he could call me, I was told “I’ll ask him about that.”
All I was wanting to do was see the ceremony!!
How it started was I created a great renewal of vows ceremony and I asked if the minister would be able to use it. A quick, “no” was the answer. Really, he won’t use a different ceremony? Down hill from there!!
And when I asked if I could do the ceremony, I sure could if I paid and EXTRA $100.00. Can you believe that!!!??? I have to pay the chapel so that their minister doesn’t have to show up!!!
So this is what I know:
- the location,
- to use their silk (note: reusable) flowers that we can’t keep is $80!!!
- the time of the ceremony
- the minister is male
This is what I don’t know:
- name of minister
- experience of minister
- type of ceremony
- what are the vows
- do the vows have “love, honor and obey” in them?
- length of ceremony
- personality (or lack thereof) of minister
- are there any testimonials for the minster?
Maybe I’m different than most, but I think it is very important to be able to have the ceremony you’d like. That is why I give so many choices,PLUS I help customize the ceremony and vows!!
So yes, I think it is important for the couple to have a say in their ceremony!
Thanks for listening to me (technically reading) vent!!!
Share you thoughts and experiences.
PS. I’ll keep you updated on the end result!