Not to be flippant but why hire a professional photographer when a friend has a phone, maybe even a camera?
Why hire a caterer when a friend has a kitchen?
Why hire a florist when you can get flowers at the store?
Why hire a professional when a friend can do it?
Recently a very popular and beautiful wedding venue in Savannah told me about a “horrible” (their words not mine) experience with a guy who went online and “got” ordained just to officiate the ceremony of people he didn’t know but hired him for their ceremony.
At the ceremony he went on and on for 10+ minutes about another couple from another state. He’s a great story teller and the story was interesting but it didn’t fit with this couple’s wedding day! And the ceremony was over 30 minutes in length, nearly a 1/3rd was a story that didn’t even fit the wedding.
Simply because someone goes online and gets ordained for a minimal cost, doesn’t make them qualified to preside at a wedding. It makes them legally able to officiate a ceremony, that’s different!
Here are things which 99% of officiants don’t know and are important for a great ceremony!
- Have a good quality handkerchief for either the grooms perspiration or the bride’s tears, or both! I’ve given away hundreds of them over the years, maybe even 500.
- I know the best way to have exchange of rings go absolutely smoothly! I should patten it!
- Listen for the pauses when the couple repeat their vows. It’s important to listen for their emotions when they speak, listen don’t rush.
- How loudly should I speak during the ceremony if they don’t want a microphone for me?
- No stories off the cuff! The ceremony dialogue is known ahead of time by the couple.
- Who stands first when the bride walks in?
- Is an aisle runner a good idea?
- What to do during awkward moments?
- The wedding ceremony is not from the bible. “Jesus was a guest at a wedding the Cana of Galilee” is about the best one can do other than the readings often read at weddings.
Let me know what questions you have about hiring the right officiant for your ceremony. You don’t even have to hire me to officiate your ceremony. I don’t mind helping!
It’s great to have all of your friends and family at a wedding. But is it great to have someone from your own town (or not local to Savannah) be the professional wedding coordinator for your special day?
Behind the scenes photo by Andy Resende of a photoshoot for a local project – no connection to the post other than I like the photo 🙂
Here is the list of cons:
- They don’t know the area.
- They don’t know the how long it takes to get from your lodging to your ceremony, etc.
- They don’t know the details of how to keep people out of uninvited guests out of your ceremony (that, BTW, is not the security/police’s job at your reserved park/square wedding).
- They normally aren’t worried about time lines, since they may be doing your ceremony at a reduced rate in order to have it on their resume.
- They don’t have the connection to local vendors to get you the best ones. Some coordinators bring all their vendors from out of the area.
- Rarely do weddings start on time (one wedding started 45 minutes late – imagine your guests sitting for 45 minutes waiting for you).
Here is the pros:
- You may know the coordinator personally – may have more fun.
- They may give you a huge discount to get the out of town/state business.
- They may be a friend, so you would only have to pay for their lodging.
Nothing against out of state/town professional wedding coordinators but I find that for the most part, local Professional Wedding Coordinators are steps above out of town ones.
Share your thoughts!
I can give you a lot of examples of why the don’ts don’t work!
Don’t have a traditional style aisle runner – Do consider using some flower petals. I’ve seen bride’s heels get stuck.
Don’t have flower petals on the beach. Sea gulls think it is food and will attack.
Don’t wear heals if your gonna stand in grass, unless you put those high heel protectors on them – to keep you from sinking into the grass.
Don’t laugh during your vows – do let tears and emotions happen. If you are a laugher, then you may get laugher in the wrong time: “I _____ take you ____ to be my ________. To love and to cherish “laughter.” I’ve seen the laughter at “and I promise to be faithful to you.” Awkward.
Don’t wear makeup which will give you streaks if you shed tears. Do wear make up which will not leave streaks. This is different than mascara.
Don’t wear red lipstick – Do wear lip sealant. Otherwise your spouse will have red lips, too! Awkward for pictures.
Don’t let the groom arrive to ceremony without a real handkerchief. Do get the groom one so that he can dab your tears or his perspiration.
These are just for starters!
Let me know your thoughts and your experiences!
my website: http://www.RevSchulte.com