So sorry, forgot to ask, but do you bring a microphone and small portablespeaker? If not, no big deal, we can project our voices!
Simple answer: someone who went online and got ordained just to be able to marry people. Not necessarily a pastor of a church.
In the State of Georgia, there are only two types of people who can marry a couple: Judges and Clergy. We do not have “Justice of the Peace” here in the State of Georgia. If someone claims to be a Justice of the Peace, they are not legally able to marry a couple in the State of Georgia.
“Clergy” can be any religious figure: pastor, chaplain, rabbi, preacher, imam, sangha, priest, bishop, maybe even prophet. Nearly all the time, a clergy person has had religious training and schooling. For example, in order to be a Lutheran Pastor, I had to have a Bachelors Degree prior to entering seminary (which is an additional 4 year program). Making it a total 8 years of educational instruction after high school.
In order to be a “non-denominational officiant” it takes about 20 minutes and some money, then in the eyes of the State of Georgia it qualifies them to be a person who is considered “clergy.” Those persons often call themselves Reverend, because technically they are. I too am a Reverend, yet it took me more than 20 minutes.
I’ve heard of many people going online to get ordained to marry couples, celebrities often do that in order to marry a celebrity couple. Am I opposed to these non-demoninational wedding officiants? Only when they pretend to be a pastor or religious leader, maybe wearing clergy collar and attire, or when they don’t even believe in God and only do this for the money (I doubt they go to worship services anywhere).
How do you know if your wedding officiant has a religious educational background, such as myself, or went online? Simple: ask them.
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This is a GREAT opportunity to learn from the experts!! Evening with the Experts. Not only are these ladies excellent at what they do, I will be there too during the Q&A!!! It’s worth it isn’t it??? 🙂 Yes, you’ll be able to meet with them, but me too!!!
One of the questions I have is, why pay $75.00 to go hear an expert when you can come meet with me at Starbucks, talk about your ceremony and only pay $7.00 for two drinks?
I’ve done lots of weddings over the years, and I know a lot about the ceremony but there is so much more I don’t know. Here’s a few of them:
- What makes a good cake?
- how to get a flash on the camera to work?
- how to pin the boutonniere on the groom so that it doesn’t flop over?
- who goes first down the aisle, mother of bride or mother of groom?
- how do you hold the flowers?
- how do you walk with heels on?
- what colors go well together?
- what type of tux is best?
I’ve had couples ask me the most of the following, many times over the years (there’s A LOT more I haven’ listed!):
- Why hire a coordinator when you can get all the vendors yourself?
- Why pay a photographer lots of money when you can get someone new to the field for a lot less? or a friend can do it for free?
- Why pay a florist when you just need a dozen roses wrapped in ribbon for your bouquet?
- Can’t we just use a CD player?
- We’re going to use walk-talkies instead of a coordinator, do you think that will work?
- can we use an ipod for the music? do you have one we can borrow?
I hate to say it but the old saying is correct, “we get what we pay for.” Here are some things that I have seen over the years, all true stories:
- wilted flowers for bouquets, from a florist!
- photographers showing up in shorts and a t-shirt for a formal wedding
- lopsided cakes
- boutonnieres pinned on upside down!!!
- coordinators who don’t have things under control and everything falls apart the last 10 minutes.
- photographers taking photos one foot behind me!!! What are they thinking!! Can’t they afford a zoom lens?
- coordinators who don’t show up
- flowers that aren’t what the bride wanted
- waiting for the flowers to show up for the bride
- photographers being rude to guests and the bridal party
- photographers showing up with hand size cameras!
- coordinators not knowing who is in the wedding party!
- cakes which showed up late to the reception!
- if you have a friend or family member “do” your ceremony (flowers, cake, minister, coordinate, photographer) and they mess up? Do you lose a friend?
- Will a family member be able to tell an outspoken future family member what to do or will they be intimidated?
These are just the ones off the top of my head!
Each of us could change the oil in our vehicle, it doesn’t take rocket science knowledge, just the right tools, but we pay someone to do it for us. Each of us could cook every meal and never go out to eat, but we pay someone to cook for us. It is cheaper to eat out, but (or should it be AND) it probably tastes better. I could make coffee at home (which I do every morning) so why go to Starbucks? I could make something similar at home, right? AND finally: The other day two of us went to see the movie “It’s complicated.” Two tickets, one popcorn and two drinks: cost: $40.00. I could have waited till the movie came out at Netflix, but didn’t want to wait.
If you really want to save money on your wedding, then go spend $75.00 and learn from them!!
The problem with going:
I can only see one huge problem with spending that money and going to the Evening With The Experts: After meeting them, you will want to hire them for your ceremony! Their personalities and knowledge will just blow you away!
I’ve only heard good things about all these experts!
Come learn from them (and of course me too!!)
Share your thoughts!! Here or at www.twitter.com/revschulte
BTW, there will be more than just four experts there!!