The phone call recently about a couple who was being judged by their officiant because it was a second marriage (read into it, “you were divorced”) got me thinking about the right to judge others.
The couple that called asked me to officiate their ceremony. I said I’d be honored.
I often get judged and I really try not to judge others – I don’t have the right to!
I have been judged on: where I live, that I was/is a yankee, what I drive, yep – my hair is thinning, that I like to go to sleep early, and so on. When I was a child I would be judged/made fun of because I played the clarinet and tuba (not at the same time!)
Recently someone asked me when I got out of my car at a Christian event – with a very judgmental tone (the kind that you’d give a child when you say, “did you spill the milk?”),
“What do you do for a living? What kind of car do you drive?”
Never in my life have I felt so judged because I drive my nearly seven year old midlife crisis convertible.
If I were to arrive anywhere in a car like this, I would be judged because I drive a car like this.
The fact is, I used to own a car just like this! And, it was the first car I owned in my name (well, me and and finance company.) It was purchased used in 1983ish.
So now the world officially knows, I drive a white convertible!
A local wedding coordinator, Chad Baker, said, “I’ve watched numerous episodes of Say Yes to the Dress, and none of them has ever shown as many shots of the minister as they showed of you!” I probably would have known that, but the first episode I watched was the last night at 9pm! (sorry SYTTD folks!)
It was towards the end of the show, maybe the last 10 minutes in which the Savannah couple appeared (even though at the beginning there was a quick shot of the three of us just as I was pronouncing them husband and wife).
The bride and groom, Melissa and Kevin, are fantastic people! Here’s a quick photo of them that I asked photographer Lyn Bohnam to take with my camera phone. It’s not the best photo, my cell phone really needs to be replaced!
I’d met with them prior to their ceremony and prior to them knowing they were going to be on the show. Not only was Melissa beautiful, her personality was even more so! I’m really happy I was able to help them with their dreams.